Who would be interested in knowing what I’m reading?
One more step to overcome and learn…I was invited to work in amplifiEDucation, now ampeduca, to do the administrative work and translations to German and Spanish.
Seemed quite easy for me because both tasks were part of my life up until this point. But, as it almost always happens in my life, I never realized in the beginning what all of this would entail. Over the past months, I had many situations, when at first, I felt that I wouldn’t be able to do what I was asked to do. Somehow I managed to overcome my fears. Now I can actually say that I did it and learned a lot of things I never thought about before: Twitter, Courseware, uploading, publishing, Mailchimp….the list goes on.
Yesterday we decided to share the books we are currently reading. I immediately came up with several typical excuses, why I couldn’t participate: Why would someone out there be interested in learning about what I read? I’m not an interesting person…I don’t have time for this….and writing a blogpost? I have never done that before?? Definitely NOT!
Today I suddenly realized that I was in the Panic Zone!!! I learned about the different zones when I became an ontological Coach. Are you familiar with these zones?
Being in your Comfort Zone is where you feel safe, comfortable and repeat things without thinking about them, there is no uncertainty. But in that zone, you don’t learn anything new. When you want to learn something, you suddenly feel uncertainty, fear. Why? Because to learn, we have to expand our awareness and our capacity for action, we don’t feel comfortable anymore. We have to admit that there are things that we don’t know and therefore, we define “learning” as a process. We move from comfort to discomfort, but we are capable to reach something that was out of our reach before.
Once we learned what we wanted to learn, we have extended our Comfort Zone because we are able to include this new learning in there.
What about the Panic Zone? Once in there, it is almost impossible to learn something because of all the negative emotions that appear, like criticism, shame for not knowing and first of all, a lot of fear. One consequence of all this is us proclaiming that we “prefer” not being interested or willing to participate, or whatever it might be. Another reason to enter the Panic Zone is when we want to speed up the learning process: a clear example for this could be when you first learn how to drive a car and decide to drive on a highway….Can you feel the sensation about this? PANIC ZONE.
So it’s better to remain in our well known Comfort Zone but the result is that we don’t learn!
Here’s the thing. What is the worst that can happen if I share my books and write this post? You don’t read this or any of the books….that’s all!!! Maybe you think my books are not interesting….so what?
I am very happy to share my books with you because I overcame the roadblocks I put in the way myself! And also, if you are reading this, my fears and doubts were unfounded.
This time, I will highlight two of the books I chose to read because they have nothing to do with work and I’m reading them for my own benefit.
Everytime I travel to the US, I spent a long while in a bookstore because I like to read in English to improve my language. The Girl on the Train: A Novel from Paula Hawkins is perfect because as I’m practicing my English, I completely forget my work, housework and even my own children (although at their age, they don’t need me that much anymore)…. This book hooks you and therefore gives you the time needed to recharge your batteries and then continue with all the duties. Watch out and choose the right moment to read it! Sometimes time goes by too quickly when you are immersed in the book.
The other book is Mindfulness en la era del miedo y la ansiedad: El arte de elegir la paz (Spanish Edition). This book is also for myself but it definitely helps to work better! It helps us to live in the present with much awareness and presence. It helps me overcome that kind of moments when I enter the panic zone. It also lets me enjoy and “live” much more what happens in the present. And regarding work? Living with complete awareness let us see the reason why we are working because at some point we chose to work on whatever we do. Maybe we should analyze how much presence and awareness we had when we took that decision.
Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D.
Viviendo los 7 hábitos. Historias que engrandecen (Spanish Edition) by Stephen R. Covey